We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.
— Maya Angelou

Your story. No-one has a similar one. The same kind of feelings, negative thinking patterns and irrational fears? Certainly yes, but not your story.

It is so often said that we only see the polished exterior, things that other people let us see, unaware of what they have really gone through in their lives. Not knowing about the situations and events that have determined their life and future. Do you often pay genuine interest to people around you, really wanting to know more about them or is everything based on only your assumptions?

Do you create space for them to be safely understood and loved as they are?

We can never get into the mind of another person and realize how they feel, why they have made certain choices in their life and what they are afraid of. We can only ever get as close as interpreting their thoughts, words and actions through our own lenses  and predispositions, which are constantly changing too. The best we can do is to practice loving compassion, because we never fully know what is behind someone else’s behavior.

We carry tragedies both individually and collectively. Our feelings of not being good enough and not worthy enough are also our collective burden. Those thoughts are in all of our souls, in the stream of energy and consciousness, and that’s why it is so difficult to get rid of them individually.

Do we let them prevent or restrict us, or do we instead courageously move forward? 

There is no such a thing as a “normal” person, unless that definition means that we are all somehow broken. We have collected those bits and pieces, made them something new. 

Our vulnerabilities however, make us real. We all have our baggage from the past. What makes the difference is whether we let that weigh us down, or if we choose to let that go, learn and move forwards.

We often share only our accomplishments, achievements and best qualities with other people in order to be loved and accepted, and easily become jealous of people who seem to do better than us. We forget that we are doing the same thing ourselves, trying to look our best in the eyes of others, wasting the energy of not genuinely sharing the gifts that we have, and that is exactly what would make the world a little bit better place one moment, word, and action at a time.

No-one can read your mind if you don’t share your thoughts.

Revealing our vulnerabilities to others makes us real. It helps us remember that we all are in this world together.

In the beginning, people think vulnerability will make you weak, but it does the opposite. It shows you’re strong enough to care.
— Victoria Pratt

By going through the obstacles on your journey, gives you enormous strength if you are open to learn. A deeper understanding and empathy towards other people and  mind-body connection. Appreciation of every day moments, even though it sometimes feels difficult. An ability to support other people in similar situations.

If we just can turn our suffering into a learning experience and opportunity to connect with other people, we would be able to help many to heal. By sharing our experiences, we can create communities and heal collectively, offering space to be heard and understood without any judgement.